feeling your feelings
Who would we be without the intelligence of our feelings to remind us who we are 🪶 🪲
There are the good feelings and there are the crummy feelings. To feel balanced in our Mind and our Wellbeing is to be able to ‘invite in’, befriend, and be in connection with all feelings without losing our good Self along the way.
Our feelings are our limitless vocabulary to helping us explore our true identity.
Believing we are good listeners, good communicators and articulate in our expressive voice seems true, until we are challenged by the emotions of our bulging hearts and foggy brains to speak up for our Self. Facing the lethargy of overwhelming crummy emotions can often feel too hard. But behind these big feelings are our stories of remembering.
They are the remembering of our dreams and of the person holding their hopes inside those dreams.
Potential waiting to be realised without that awful feeling of hopelessness, but of hope fuelled by the deeper intelligence of our imagination - to know we can grow who we want to be one moment at a time, until we feel our full blossoming for all to see.
YOU are the meeting place of your powerful emotional energies, safely free to fall whenever you are ready into your own loving arms. No longer waiting … because you are always here, daring to meet your kind loving Self through the insights you uncover as your wisdom to shaping and strengthening your virtues of character as you walk through this life.
Feelings are a marriage of love and forgiveness when it comes down to it, held without the burden of judgment, resentment or any other emotional weight.
Vulnerable feelings are our growing pains to overcoming our fears and to living life with the full expression of who we feel in our Heart and Soul.
We can learn to meet all of our feelings with the power of a strong Mind. A Mind that is strengthened by practicing Self-Awareness. It is a muscle memory workout that teaches our brain to move in harmony with our true nature.
Mind Training (click here)
Your Mind is the meeting place of your deeper intelligence.
Awareness is a big open Space in your Mind made possible by sitting quietly, consciously breathing and compassionately feeling the unsticking of rigid crummy emotions. It is also the Space where you remember what makes you laugh, feel alive, creative, loveable and embraced, with a warmth that fills your whole being.
Why do we have feelings?
To find our voice so we can tell our stories of love and forgiveness as only we can feel it. Where we bravely learn to harmonise our listening to all listening, and to see with our Minds eye far beyond the illusion of what we thought was real.
We have our feelings to teach us how to be strong in our Mind. To love, care for and support our Self so we can be the strength needed in life to support others. And to sew these seeds of strength, so beautifully bound as love and forgiveness into our family homes to ensure the legacy of who we feel in our Heart lives on in our children.
Our feelings are our language for reaching deep into the endless well of our Soul, to discover our Self over and over so we continuously change, evolve and bring forward new ideas to Inspire.
Our feelings are where we learn to become wise elders and the keepers of knowledge. We experience the hard lessons so we value responsibility and etch it deep into our mind to secure the path for future generations.
What is a feeling?
A feeling is a vibration of energy that moves through our entire body. It is a sensation felt with our breath and with our heart beat, channelling the nervous system as we listen. We feel this moving vibration of energy when we are still. We feel it when we are restless. Aware and observant, curious as to what it all means when we listen.
Feelings when flowing through us have no emotional weight. No attachments, needs or wants. Our feelings just are. They are colours, no more brighter or duller than any other colour. Feelings shape our creative freedom and allows us our right to choose, as an expression of the love and beauty that we already are.
When we add thoughts of judgement to what we are feeling, rather than just allowing our feelings to be felt, we lose touch with the feeling. We become attached to the belief, not the feeling, and unconsciously diminish the truth of what we are really feeling. (This is the power of observation when we are present and aware with our full attention).
When our thoughts and feelings flow freely through us, uninhibited by heavy emotions, we feel a state of peace in whatever we are purposefully doing.
Energy signals are sent from the awareness of our Mind to our brain to communicate this peaceful state of Heart.
Understanding Reality
What is real is always present. It is the meeting of awareness with awareness, Soul to Soul, essence to essence. We sense who we are when we are present, and we sense this presence in other people. We recognise the deeper knowing and not the conditioning of beliefs, behaviours or attitudes. We see the other person - a Human Being who feels.
All existence outside of the present moment is an illusion. It is an interpretation of how we record our memories while listening. It is habitually easy to anticipate what we want to hear rather than being present and open to the unknown - listening as though for the very first time, every time. Training our awareness ‘muscle’ to remain present to the now strengthens our Mind and expands how we feel as we lean into our emotional intelligence.
Emotions
An emotion is a thought attached to a feeling.
Thoughts are a form of energy. They come and go freely when our Mind is clear and still.
When there is a belief attached to what we are thinking, especially a belief that makes us feel uncomfortable to the point of resistance or prickling up, we feel a surge of energy power rush through our body. We feel a reaction. The emotion that drives this energy power feels very real, and while it is there, alive in us from the past, it is real. For Now.
Beliefs are not real. They are illusions. Memories created from the imagination of our mind that come to life through our emotions. Memories can create a trigger. They can ignite happy feelings but they can also stir up big overwhelming emotions that can feel hard to hold causing us to feel powerless, voiceless and depriving of our Hearts true expression. Crummy feelings can crush our Spirit and keep us hidden from the tenderness we yearn. We can certainly feel misunderstood, and not know why.
We can lose connection with what is most precious when we are overwhelmed, and that is the natural flow of giving and receiving love. Our feeling-Heart and Soul-Awareness connection lose touch. We become disconnected - shut down - from communicating our feelings when we have no language outside of when we have been taught.
Beliefs can hold enormous power over the quality of our life. They can hold our loving Heart captive - if not challenged and explored - and they can impact our wellbeing as well as the wellbeing of those around us.
Beliefs are inherited through our family dynamics, our environments and through our DNA (family history stored as genetic memory).
We don’t even know these genetic memories are there. We live our life according to what we are taught and told to believe, often without understanding the confusing power they hold. The only way to truly know what is real and what is not is to hang out with our Self and our feelings.
Challenging our beliefs
It’s not easy to be with our feelings when we are being challenged. It can at times feel downright awful when strong emotions come to the surface, such as deeply held painful feelings of sadness, anger or resentment. But, we do our very best, as hard as it is, to allow these feelings to patiently and compassionately move through us.
Big overwhelming emotions that are physically alive in us do eventually weaken, lose their power, and over time with tender loving care, slowly dissolve. We may maintain the memory but not the overwhelming trigger of the feeling.
The gift you miraculously give your Self is space to grow. You create greater awareness so insight from the deeper intelligence of your Mind guides you to understanding your feelings and your Self better. And to offering you a new perspective on what is possible. You get to find your voice to help you make choices that are new and different.
Choices that come with ease when you listen to your Spirit. Choices that may have you feeling vulnerable and exposed because it is the new unknown, but choices that have you feeling good about your decisions. And about who you believe you are in your Heart and in your Mind.
Tools for being with strong emotions (click here)
Change will always feel uncomfortable when we are learning new ways of being, knowing and doing. With time and practice we just get better and better at being with our Self, fully.
The purpose of feelings
Our feelings help guide us in rearranging the patterns of our Mind so we are attuned to our natural world. We are nature and we were designed to be a loving mirror of consciousness flowing freely through us all the time. We are after all the caretakers of mother earth, and so we must know how to listen for our wellbeing and hers.
When we know how to return our attention to our Spiritual Nature we are never alone.
Practicing to feel our feelings as our new normal
We do have to practice taking care of our feelings by giving our attention to meeting the intensity of their power until the practice of feeling with our full awareness feels normal.
Over time it becomes a beautiful discipline of love and creative expression that carries us with ease through life.
The feeling exercise is a very simple way of practicing how to find space in your Mind and to fill that space with love.
It is a gradual transformation from the debilitating feeling of hopelessness to that of hope. You learn to become master of the energy power that lives within you.
You get to decide who you want to be. And to be that feeling. This is power.
The feeling exercise (click here)
It is super empowering undoing (unsticking) what you thought to be real, to what is loving. From telling your self it’s impossible, or that you can’t do it or have it because that’s what you taught your Self to believe - to gradually feeling free and fulfilled in your choices.
When we ignore our feelings
Uncomfortable, prickly and overwhelming emotions don’t go away if they are not tended to. They live on.
Our footprint matters. And so do our human rights. Realising we have far greater freedom of choice than what our limited Mind has been taught is an injustice to our emotional goodness, to our sense of identity and to our natural feelings of belonging.
Often we don’t even know we are denying our Self the truth of our latent feelings. However, the clues are all around us in everything we do and say. Change comes when we are ready. After all, our Spirit knows best and will push us continuously out of our comfort zone to urge us back to our heart’s truthful right to belong.
It will seem scary at first and very overwhelming to meet your feelings because it is fear that initially taught you to ‘neglect’ your loving Self, and to hide away from all these misunderstood emotional states.
Honesty comes from being consistent in our thoughts and feelings
Being naked to the vulnerability of your Heart aches and to the discovery of an intricately delicate balance between love and forgiveness is a fragile beauty of blossoming that brings you back into harmony with your Self and nature.
The gentle child you remember in the adult you are now.
It can feel like a painful tranquility of cherishing what could not possibly be understood unless we willingly lay bare with the honest consistency in feeling over and over the deepest parts of our Self.
The courage in honestly being open to our vulnerable feelings is worth every moment to the restoration of our Mind. We attract the right choices to creating the right dreams to match our new reality. And that is to know love. 💚
The feeling exercise (click here)
When we steer our Mind deep into the eyes of our Soul we get to retrieve our full indentity.